So what happens in the absence of a clear connect & communication?

When I got married into a family in Delhi, a place which is not only culturally but also  climatically different from my  dear ‘Aamchi Mumbai’ back in December,2007, it was a time of winter season… a time which in Bollywood movies is shown to be romantic and festive. Par aisa kab hi hua hai ki jitna filmo me dikhaya jaaye vohi Pura sach ho, u know what I mean 😁

Initial days of marriage are pretty much confusing for all of us who have been through this phase. Now alongwith the confusion add a bit of misinterpretation and lack of communication and it’s a perfect recipe for disaster 😅

There were a few small (Now to think of it absolutely irrelevant) incidents which led to me and my mom in law keeping a bit aloof and quiet around each other as we were probably taking our own time to think and understand each other. On one of the mornings, after the washing machine was done, I put the clothes out for drying on the stand and ropes. Jaise mummy ko karte dekha tha fan bhi chala diya…. par na jaane kyun kuch time baad mummy aayi, bina kuch bole kapde jaise maine sukhaye the unko palat kar chali gayi… I remember feeling very annoyed and bad thinking ki vo mere kapde sukhane me bhi kami nikaal rahi hai. I shared this with my mom back then jiska patent jawab mila, ‘jaane de, ignore,  koi baat nahi!!’

As time passed by and I settled into living here in the northern part of India, I understood that in winters, as the season is harsh and colder as compared to from where I came, changing the sides of clothes while they are put out to dry is a common thing, only to help it dry out faster… 😅🤷‍♀️

My mom in law’s action had nothing to do with finding faults in me. Its been six years now that I have lost her and eighteen years to my marriage but still, everytime I put out the clothes to dry, this incident crosses my mind. It was so easy for me to presume something negative and bad rather than to probably simply ask or try to find/understand the reason. Our mind is such ! It automatically believes something that’s bad but many a times struggles to accept the good.

The purpose of my blog is not to prove that daughter in laws are bad or mom in laws are innocent and nice or vice-versa…. its only to share that communication and clear connect helps to avoid a lot of problems in our lives which we end up creating unknowingly for ourselves.

Do share such experiences from your life/relations too which will help me and our fellow readers of this blog to pause, reflect, smile and see life in a sorted and lighter tone. 😊

– Sonali Bakshi

28-06-2025

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