Last week i happened to catch up with a long lost school friend of mine. Thanks to the advancement of the technology, the world has become much closer and accessible, at least virtually i mean.
So our conversation started with catching up on the details of our junior college, graduation, professional accomplishments coming on to our present state of being a “housewife”. Usually the first reaction or reply that a housewife unintentionally and promptly gives is that,”No,no i am not a working woman anymore, i stay at home with kids”. The laughably strange irony of the situation is that despite the fact that she solely manages the entire house, shuffling and multi-tasking between the schedule, necessities, comfort and requirements of all the family members, from cooking meals to feeding her children to remembering the medicines for children and elders in the family alike, she is the first to wake up each morning and last to lie down at night, her job description is endless indeed.
What then makes a lady who is efficiently doing all this with no sick or casual leaves, no allocated days for break, no pay cheque either, undermine her own value to say,”I am not a working woman!”?
“I think it has got more to do with her seeing her own value as defined through the eyes of others.”
It has also got to do with the fact that there is no annual appraisal, no appreciation nor credit given to her as she would have otherwise received, had she been working professionally in some organisation. This perspective which exists in our society definitely needs a long pending make-over.
A housewife is not the breadwinner in a family that i do agree, but she is definitely a financial planner, budgeting and savings planner, a contributor to all the aspects pertaining to the family and unquestionably a remarkable value addition to all the lives associated with her’s in her family and for that she deserves respect and acknowledgement.
A heartfelt note from me to all the beautiful and hardworking housewives is to stop referring to themselves as “not working” and start valuing and respecting their important role as a “home maker”, an efficient manager who handles different generations and age groups, any situations and circumstances in her family, efficiently donning the numerous hats of a cleaner, cook, teacher, caretaker, get together organiser while being a part of all the ups and downs of the lives of each person of her family at the same time with the same amount of sincerity, dedication and love !